Judy Rosemarin leads Sense-able Strategies, Inc. a coaching and training form that helps leaders refine their executive presence, leadership confidence and competence. Her philosophy is based on a deep belief that people have most of the resources they need, with her job being to help them rediscover and reclaim those resources through safe learning and skills practice. She is a firm believer in the power of storytelling, and is well known in print and television media for her career transition know-how – with a splash of colorful, dynamic personal communication in the mix. As a member of ICoachNew York, Judy and her co-authors published the book Becoming an Exceptional Executive Coach: Use Your Knowledge, Experience, and Intuition to Help Leaders Excel.
Coaching Leaders – How It is Different: Focusing on what goes right, the best leadership coaches respect differences and are flexible and skilled at facilitating action often on very limited information to meet the client’s needs. Asking more questions than telling, they have no fear of conflict and enjoy courageous conversations, helping clients become more reflective and open to new
How Stories Deepen Trust and Understanding: Describing our life events by telling stories reveals who we really are. They are the personal myths that guide and steer us, and we become less alone when sharing them with others who then accompany us on our journey. A good coach listens with a different ear and viewpoint and watches for visual, tonal and mood cues, appreciating how over 80% of communication is nonverbal. The coach asks questions to help the storyteller to understand themself better, and while the coach may have a related story, he is mindful to share it only in service of the client.
Pitfalls and Possibilities of Internal Coaching: While internal coaches may have a more immediate understanding of the business environment and opportunity to frequently observe the client in action, quite often they cannot offer objectivity or complete confidentiality to the extent someone from the outside can. The ties that bind may blind. The best coaches are insanely curious and observe and listen neutrally without bias or judgment. They operate through an explicit project deliverable-based contract with the client, a contract with an entrance and an exit strategy.
Developing Your Own Coaching Approach: While there is no one way to coach, it is a whole person activity requiring being comfortable in both your and the client’s NOT knowing, accepting inherent uncertainty, and having faith in the client. Top coaches foster learning and demonstrate self-management in the face of excitement and frustration, serving in a role of participant observer, and being able to step back to help the client paint a new picture, develop a new story, and have people walk away humming the tune the client wants them to remember.